Hello Clovers!! This Monday, I just want to tell you to be courageous. At some point you’ve must have heard people saying “face your fears” or “courage is facing your fears”. This then brings us to the big question.
What does it mean to “face your fears”?
Does facing your fear mean you shouldn’t be scared at all or that you aren’t allowed to have fears?
I think “to face your fear” is all about confronting yourself. Yes! I said you should confront yourself and call all your bluffs.
I have been working on myself for a while now and I would share the 3 simple moves I’ve been making to help me with this.
“Courage is facing your fear, stupidity is fearing nothing”Todd BELLEMARE
I have been using a method I abbreviated to I-A-A
Please note that this is not a professional advice, I figured out this method myself and though it’s been working for me,we may not get the same or desired results. You may also like to find your own solutions by seeking professional advice
So what’s my I-A-A method about?
Three easy steps (though it is easier said than done)
I– Identification: yes, as in identifying what exactly is your fear? Think about it. What really scares you? What is that thing that can really make you feel hopeless and probably unhappy with yourself?
You should ask yourself these questions! I call this first stage the key stage because it’s almost the hardest (for me though). This is like where you have to find out the root of the problem
A– Acceptance : this is the second stage. Accepting or admitting to yourself that you are afraid of a thing or a thought. Don’t dismiss the whole thing, accept the truth, face your fear. Look right into it’s face and see for yourself what you have been scared of.
A– Action : the third and last stage is action. Now you have to do something about it. A temporary solution is better than doing nothing, as long it it’s not going to have a side effect on the long run. (I’m not talking about drugs, illegal substances or getting drunk). Sometimes, the temporary solution might be as simple as thinking of something that makes you happy or a moment in your life when you felt overjoyed.
It all depends on what works for you really. At the end, I think it’s about knowing yourself and understanding who you are. (Yes, that might sound a little weird but majority of people don’t even understand themselves. I’m not going to lie, I’m still working on that too myself)
To understand one’s self is probably one of the hardest things really. But that doesn’t mean you can’t give it a try.
If you have issues you can’t deal with yourself, it’s often best to seek professional help. Sometimes therapy would be a start, so don’t hesitate to talk to a therapist. There are online therapist and counsellors these days and there are even free platforms to sign up for.
Remember I said the main goal for this year is to be better than before in every way!
Keep working on yourself!
Cheers to the week ahead!